How To Cure Premature Ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions, affecting up to one third of all men.  It’s a condition that come with a certain stigma, since men with sexual issues tend to be emasculated because of the issue, and feeling like less of a man tend to intensify the issue.

Premature ejaculation is when the man climaxes before he or his partner wants him too.  This is usually unintentional, and if done intentionally, there is a whole different set of problems.  On average, most men tend to last about 7 to 8 minutes in bed before climaxing, but this is often not long enough for some sexual partners, leaving at least one half of the equation feeling unsatisfied.  This condition can lead to undo stress on a relationship, since leaving both parties sexually unsatisfied can create trust issues, insecurity and feelings of doubt about the stability of the relationship.  Whether many men or women will admit it, sex plays a big part in any relationship.

Just remember one thing, there are ways that a couple can go about curing premature ejaculation, it’s just figuring out the how part that may be difficult. Before we get into the various techniques to cure this dysfunction, remember that you’re not the only one who has this problem, and you are not less of a man for having it.

The easiest method is to invest in a desensitization cream or climax control prophylactic.  Desensitization creams and climax control condoms work by providing a numbing effect to the penis, allowing most men the ability to last longer during intercourse.  These work with a combination of various ingredients, mainly silicon, types of oil and a numbing agent, which is usually benzocaine or lidocaine.  These were first developed and used for dental procedures, and the levels used for climax control are much less than those levels.  It should be stated that the creams should only be used in a committed relationship, since the use of a condom may be made less effective, and other contraceptive methods should be discussed with your partner before you stop using condoms.  Most major condom manufacturers also have climax control condoms, which have the same effect while still providing the protection of a condom.

This will greatly effect the feeling you have during intercourse, which may be too much for some people.  If you try this and then cannot climax with the use of these, then you should try another method.

I’m sure we’ve all heard about it before, “Just think about baseball and you’ll be fine.”  Distracting yourself from intercourse can really help to delay your climax.  Giving intense focus on a very unsexy subject can help to diminish the likelihood of you climaxing before you’re ready.  It is, after all, just mind over matter.  The drawback, you are intentionally distracting yourself from an intimate moment with your partner, which does have the potential to lead to a whole new set of problems.  Try other methods first, and try not to make this one a habit if you can avoid it.

Stress and other issues can cause men to develop premature ejaculation, and when figuring out how to cure premature ejaculation, you need to see how good your relationship is.  While people with great relationships still have this issue, it is often made worse with stress in the relationship, unresolved issues with your partner or general unhappiness with your relationship.  Talking with your partner more and having frequent open dialogs can help to alleviate some of the stress you may be under, making you more comfortable with your relationship.  People in happy relationship have been scientifically proven to last longer during sex.

Exercise and Training

There are several ways you can train yourself to control your ejaculation better.  To begin, develop a proper breathing technique, which most people don’t really think about during sex.  Taking some deep breathes during intercourse when approaching climax relaxes the muscles, causing the need to climax to temporarily subside.  It is quite simple, yet very effective.

Training yourself to climax only when you want to works well for many, but it take patience from both you and your partner.  With or without your partner, get to the point of climax, and then stop.  Start again and go to the same point.  Stop.  Repeat one more time.  On the fourth time, you should climax.  Getting in a pattern like this will allow you to last longer during sex, but you have to also practice this during intercourse.  If you feel you are about to climax too early, stop for a minute.  Women can be stimulated by more than just thrusting, while most men tend to believe that is all that will work.

You can also try to exercise your pelvic muscles to provide you with more control.  Performing various clinching exercise throughout the day can help improve your stamina, since the stronger your muscles, the more control you have sexually.  Simply clinch you pelvic muscles for three seconds, and then relax.  Repeat ten to fifteen times throughout the day.

Change Sexual Habits

People tend to get comfortable with a sort of sex schedule, especially after they’ve been together for a long time.  Becoming too comfortable can cause you to climax too early, and also make your sex life just a little dull.  Change things up.  Instead of having sex right before bed, have it first thing in the morning, or if you already do that, try once in the evening before dinner or right after work.  Try using different positions, since men can typically hold out longer in specific positions and try new things sexually.  A change in habits can do wonders when figuring out how to cure premature ejaculation, as well as help your sex life period.

If At First You Don’t Succeed, Try Again

If you tend to climax very quickly, who says you can’t just have sex again right afterwards.  If you are in better health and maintain a good diet, having sex multiple times could be the best cure for premature ejaculation.  Foods like fish, avocado, bananas and oysters can help you to have both more stamina and an increased ability to bounce back after a climax.  You will need to take a minute to rest, but falling back into more foreplay can really help to have intercourse multiple times in succession.

Seek Help

If none of these seem to help at all, there is no shame in talking to a doctor or therapist about the situation.  A doctor may prescribe your with medication that will help cure your premature ejaculation, or there may be another biological cause for your condition.  Since stress can play a major roll in causing premature ejaculation, talking with someone can do wonders to reduce your stress level about the situation.

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Let me say this right off the bat; I am neither a nutritionist nor a urologist, I am a psychologist. However I have had decades of interest and studying into nutrition, and have a science background. Not only do I have two science degrees, but I also grew up in a home where my father was a scientist and my mother a pharmacist. With that in mind I am going to share with you some highlights from a client, let’s call him, Peter, who trusted me enough to let me work with him on those issues, and as a result got his blood sugar levels near to normal and is enjoying a satisfying love life.

Peter has been a diabetic for years and is on medication (metformin), rather than insulin injections. Peter is also a businessman who travels internationally, holding crucial organisational meetings with decision makers either in boardrooms or in hotel bars, and generally living a stressful life where he used abuse his body eating airline, hotel, and other convenience foods.

When he was diagnosed with diabetes, he tried to watch his food. He reported back that his love-life with his wife started to fluctuate, sometimes the potency was ok, and at other times it certainly was not and he knew he was going down the impotency trail.

Know your own body!

There is something I find amazing with most people who are diabetic. They take their meds; go for their monthly or any other regular blood sugar check-ups, and try to be ‘good’ especially the days before the doctor’s appointments. Meanwhile their libido goes downhill.

If it is a man, quite often the times he has intercourse with his wife will become more infrequent. It’s an odd age, either she is glad that the ‘raging beast’ finally gives her peace, or she has come to a point that she now wants it more and, frustratingly, he is now not interested ….. Ok that is another subject I will deal elsewhere, as it has both psychological and medical implications.

Going back to diabetes and impotency, it is not enough to just go for regular doctor’s appointments!

Let’s say, if a man goes for his monthly check-ups. The day he has his blood sugar levels checked, he may have been very ‘good’ and the results are acceptable to the doctor. What this man does not realise is that during that month the blood sugar levels can fluctuate dramatically, and during the ‘unknown’ high times, a lot of damage is done. So, on the day of the appointment it appears to be fine, when actually it isn’t!

So, the serious minded man will do three things to get to know his own body:

1.    Study his body

2.    Get regular exercises

3.    Check his potency as often as possible (a willing wife is helpful with this …. but then I will be shall sharing more on how to make your wife feel oh so good, she will be asking for more).

Let’s look at point 1.

All food is not created equal. Your body is unique and will metabolise foods uniquely differently to other people, although, certain principles apply across the board.

You are also a package deal in terms of what stresses you negatively, may invigorate someone else. Negative stress also increases the blood sugar levels, as do anxiety, anger, frustration  …. and argument with the spouse, uncertain business deals, etc.

It’s time to log everything about you and study your own body like if it was a laboratory rat! Seriously, NO JOKE!!

Get yourself a blood sugar testing kit, one that gets you to test all your finger tips (well, you would not want to prick he same finger several times a day?!).

For the intensive testing period, stick with a plain food menu that is repeated, thus you should get a reasonably constant reading.

Then introduce one of food type at a time, and check the blood sugar level 2 hours after eating (peak time) – it’s all about getting to know YOUR body!

You will thus find certain foods throw your results off the charts, and others get it below.

Make a note and log it all!

Also make a note if you had any stressful occasions, it may be the stress rather than the food item that threw it off. You will start to see a very useful pattern that will help you to see where and how to do adjustments.

Once you know your body and what foods work best for you, you can then reduce the tests to once a day, in the morning. Still, log everything in a book and a chart.

Back to my client Peter, he was very seriously minded and willing to do whatever it took to manage his blood sugar and regain some of his potency. Sure, it was not like when he was in his 20’s and 30’s when he had full control over body during lovemaking, but he was nonetheless very pleased with the results of what I had advised him to do.

First of all he cut out most, if not all, of the starchy processed carbohydrates and focused on so-called low GI foods, foods with high fibre content.

My preferred recommendation for him is raw, completely uncooked and unprocessed vegetables, as it is living food, and the enzymes in raw foods are destroyed by the heat in the cooking process.

Enzymes are needed to break down food, aid the immune system and metabolism, so that the body can effortlessly assimilate its nutrients.

Enzymes are vital to the healing process in the body. No matter how many vitamins you pop, they will not benefit you that much if they had not been ‘worked on’ by enzymes!

Pasteurized fruit juice, for example, remains fresh for long shelf life because the enzymes have been destroyed by heat. So it is pointless to drink pasteurized vegetable or fruit juices out of cartons and think you’re doing something good for your body! There is no space here to go into details about the benefits of living raw foods and enzyme activities.

I recommended that he would gradually introduce more and more of his vegetables raw. Why? Well, as I said, I am not a medical doctor and I do know that with some people who have abused their bodies for years, their digestive systems are too weak to digest raw vegetables despite all their natural enzymes. So, just in case, I wanted Peter’s body to build up gradually to eating a maximum of raw veggies.

He found out, for example, that eating carrots raw gave him good results, whereas cooking them was like eating sugar cubes, to him.

Thankfully, Peter is a hobby cook, and his wife is a very enthusiastic and dab hand at cooking, too.

First thing, adding to their food processor, they bought themselves a juicing machine and started juicing their raw vegetables.

With juicing you will lose some of the fibre, but if you drink your vegetable juice within 15 minutes, you’ll benefit from all the enzymes, vitamins and minerals as if you were munching them.

They then set out to become very creative making all sorts of interesting dips and sauces out of raw veggies with herbs, spices, apple cider vinegar and virgin olive oil, etc. to add to their chunked up raw veggies and quality cooked lean proteins.

They also learned how to add cinnamon to meals, enjoy a little dark chocolate with very high percentage of cocoa and as little sugar as he could stand; plus get out into the sunshine as much as possible to get adequate vitamin D, and other resourceful and creative ways of enjoying a new lifestyle.

He reported back that their love-life had also picked up considerably! He noticed that whenever his blood sugar was high the inevitable ‘droop’ occurred; it was directly related. In fact he could judge by his potency whether or not his blood sugar was high.

Now, it was not easy to implement all this, especially when he was on business trips. He had to learn to do forward thinking and use a lot of discipline to say ‘no’ to some foods and snacks he used to enjoy and everyone around him ate.

However, the result has been greater energy and a very satisfying intimate time with his wife. He thinks it is worth all the effort.

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Please Note: Disclaimer

Nothing above is intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation, or cure for any specific kind of medical, psychological, emotional or sexual problem.

Please see a qualified practitioner, physician or therapist for further help.

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East versus West

Tantric sex is thought to date back approximately 5,000 years and is part of an ancient Eastern spiritual practice known as tantra. Tantra involved leading an artistic and cultural lifestyle of bliss and harmony, of which sexuality was only one aspect.

The spiritual path of tantra says that pleasurable sex is sacred and not a sin. Modern western society tends to ignore the wider aspects of tantric teachings and concentrates only on the sexual element. In its original form, tantric sex encourages total love that involves the mind, the spirit, and the body.

Do your exercises

There are hundreds of tantric sex books, videos, and even classes available. Many of the exercises that exist have been developed to allow the body to be relaxed, and the mind to be free from mundane thoughts (such as: ‘Did I lock the door?’, ‘I hope my flatmate doesn’t walk in and start laughing’, and: ‘Wow, this ceiling needs repainting’). There are also techniques that involve using breathing as a form of meditation and a way of spreading sexual energy around the body.

With tantric sex, couples concentrate on enjoying the moment and explore all their senses, rather than racing towards an orgasm as if it is the only thing that matters. They are also encouraged to be more romantic with one another, by making the bedroom into a special place, gazing deeply into each other’s eyes (soul gazing), and giving one another small gifts.

How do they do that?

We’ve all seen some of the positions. They may look like completely mad exotic contortions, but according to the tantra philosophy they are designed to ‘align the chakras’ of the lovers. Which is obviously the reason Playboy went out and made a commercial ‘tantric lovemaking’ video, and the book market has been flooded with so many picture books. Not.

Claims made about tantric sex:

According to its followers, tantric sex helps create:

• more loving and affectionate relationships;
• better communication between partners;
• intense, whole-body orgasms;
• male orgasm that don’t necessarily involve ejaculation;
• sex that goes on for hours;
• easier orgasms for women;
• a few headlines for ageing pop and movie stars.

Agrexophilia: You like other people know you’re having it off

Algophilia: You find pleasure in pain

Allopellia: You like watching other people do it

Allorgasmia: You think about someone else to reach climax

Altocalciphilia: High heel fetish

Amaurophilia: You like your partner blindfolded

Anasteemaphilia: Attracted to a difference in height

Androminetophilia: Boys who do girls dressed as boys

Amomaxia: You can’t stop doing it in parked cars

Amychesis: Scratching during sex

Axillism: Sex with your partner’s armpit

Basoexia: Sexual arousal from kissing

Belonephilia: Aroused by pins, needles, or other sharp objects

Capnolagnia: When smoking gets you horny

Claustrophilia: You love being in a confined space

Coprolalia: Naughty words float your boat

Dacrylagnia: You love it when your partner cries

Emetophilia: You have a vice for vomit

Endytophilia: Enjoy doing it with your clothes on

Eproctolagnia: A fetish for farting

Harmatophilia: Penchant for partners who are useless in bed

Harpaxophilia: Being robbed leaves you weak at the knees

Hypephilia: Attraction to fabrics

Iantronudia: Exposing yourself to the doc gets you going

Moriaphilia: Arousal from telling dirty jokes

Oculolinctus: Eyeball licking

Odontophilia: Tooth fetish

Phygephilia: Weakness for buttock kissing

Teledildonics: Arousal from computer sex games

Tragolimia: Craving for sex

Zelophilia: Arousal from jealousy

Cute display of affection or possessive tag? You decide.

What is it?

A love bite is basically a bruise, caused by bleeding under the skin as a result of your partner’s limpet-like sucking on your neck. This temporary discoloration, technically called a hyperpigmentation, results from blood being drawn out of vessels under your skin.

Why do it?

Some people just can’t stop themselves… Those possessive types may use love bites as a mark of possession to show everyone else you are taken. If they can’t trust you to tell people yourself, are they worth it?

For others it is a show of affection, and the receivers are quite happy to show off to their mates that they are getting some. However this usually stops at 13 and so if your mates are still flaunting them you may suspect that the hoover did it. Just a thought.

When to stop

If you do have vampire tendencies you should be able to understand the word NO from your partner. Don’t make him/her think that you’re orally fixated, or that you didn’t eat enough for dinner. Leave their flesh intact.

Cover up

To reduce the swelling apply a cold compress (like an ice cube wrapped in kitchen towel). This serves to make the broken blood vessels contract, but for best results it needs to be done immediately after the damage has been done.

If a few hours have passed try rubbing arnica on the affected area to soothe the skin. Applying a little make up will also help keep the truth covered up, as will a scarf or hiding in your room till the bruising fades.

Your suggested cures

One tried and tested method appears to be toothpaste. Angela says: “Toothpaste is really good. I’m coming from experience. It does help! And of course you can always pinch some concealer or powder from your sister’s room to stop trying to get rid of them. Still, the best option is to tell your partner you don’t like them – it saves all the hassle really,”

And, of course, polo necks… but not in the Summer, according to Paul: “Buy a selection of polo neck jumpers to cover it up- then again that might work in Winter but not during a heatwave.”